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My First Impressions of Online Dating

I'll never forget the first impressions I got of online dating.  
I made a formal announcement about 9 years ago on my Facebook page that I was getting back out there.
Something about "There's still hope and it's online dating!"  
O. The backlash.  

Friends and acquaintances had very negative impressions of it.  
Well, one lady had good reason to.  She matched with a married man.  But she had no idea he was married.  He played pretend.  Apparently if you take off your ring, rent an apartment and get a new girlfriend the marriage doesn't exist.  O but it does!  I'm not sure how she found out he was married.  
But she did.  She never forgave the dating site for that trauma. 
And she warned me, "Don't do it."

I know some dating sites ask people about their marital status.  Last I knew, we're all on the honor system to tell the truth about marital status. For example, when I tried to sign up for eharmony 9 years ago it kicked me off!  It was because I wasn't divorced.  In the process and pending wasn't good enough. The only reason they knew was because I told the truth.  

I'd love to tell you that all dating sites take deep dives into a person's background.  Recently I had the opportunity to learn from a background checking program that partners with a very popular dating site it only peeks into a person's past the same amount of time a bankruptcy lasts.  I was pretty disappointed to learn that.  

I personally LOVE that most counties offer a free on-line public records search. The public records search is a lot more extensive.  And all you normally need is a first and last name.  

Be safe out there!



   

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