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Why I Won't Recommend Bumble Dating

I recently decided to give Bumble dating a chance.

48 hours later Predator Jim's profile appeared.  

Predator Jim, domestic abuser, was the man I was matched to on another dating app 3 years ago.  

I couldn't believe it. 

He took advantage of a feature Bumble offers.  A person can pay to spotlight their profile to potential matches.   And that's what he did.

Nevermind my desire to only see matches within my local area.  Predator Jim who lives outside of my area, was still able to get his profile right in front of my face.  EWWWW.

I tried to hide my profile in incognito mode so Predator Jim couldn't study my photos and profile again. Bumble makes you pay extra to go incognito. 
I couldn't believe I was going to have to to pay extra for my safety.  

So I left.

I feel bad for any woman who sees his profile and tries to go on a date with him. 
Unfortunately the dating apps don't have soundboards, threads, or chat areas so I can warn other  
members about unsafe people.  

And that's a shame.  



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