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Effective Communication, Not Constant Communication.

Constant communication is a trap.  

I learned this the hard way two years ago.  I couldn't figure out how I managed to make myself a target for yet another unsafe person.  And then it dawned on me.  I communicated with him.  I made myself available way too often and didn't set limits.  Well, never again.

Constant communication didn't give my brain a break to process all of the information the new person was telling me. 

Constant communication didn't give my brain a chance notice the red flags. 

Constant communication erased my boundaries that I set for safety. 

Constant communication gave the impression I wasn't really an independent woman who had a full life.

There's better ways to communicate and it doesn't have to be constantly.  If a person is truly safe, they'll respect your time limits, especially in the beginning.   


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