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Will Expert Online Dating Tips Keep You Safe?

While scrolling through Pinterest I came across the article "Online Dating Tips for Women".

I wondered if this dating expert's advice would have helped me in 2020.  Would this advice
have helped me spot an unsafe match quickly?

The answer is no, not right away. 
The biggest safety tip missing from this (and most expert's advice) is the background check.  

I think the reason a lot of experts won't mention the background check may have something to do with the controversy about whether it's fair to judge people based on their legal history.

I don't know about you, but I've learned I'm a zero percent match with a convicted domestic abuser.
I'm still recommending the background check EVERY time. 

Most county's now offer a free public records background check through their county clerk of courts site.  The best part is the public records search is FREE.  All you normally need is a first and last name. 

Keep safe out there!





 


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